Proverbs 31:30 – “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.”


  • This Proverb is directed towards women, but it can easily be about males too.
  • Charm and beauty are things we spend a great amount of time and focus on.  We worry about the clothes we wear, how to do our hair, make-up, working out, shoes, etc.  We constantly compare ourselves to others and look in mirrors to gauge how good we look.
  • Charm is defined as: “the power or quality of giving delight or arousing admiration”  In other words, it is the ability to get people to look at you and like you.  But, scripture calls it deceptive, meaning it often doesn’t point to what’s true about a person.
  • What does it mean to fear the Lord?  In the Old Testament, this phrase is used over and over, particularly in the book of Proverb.  It essentially means to take God seriously.  To take his desires seriously, his authority seriously, his future judgment seriously, his love seriously.


I constantly hear from teenagers who are worried that they are not beautiful enough, skinny enough, short enough, funny enough, rich enough.  They compare themselves to everyone else, worrying they do not make the cut.  Or, I watch as other teenagers take pride in the fact that they think they’re prettier, smarter, or more athletic than their peers.  Everything in our culture tries to convince you that looks are the most important thing about you.  And scripture is screaming STOP!!!  Think about how mouse traps or fishing lures work.  The animals are attracted to what looks good and what do they find within?  Death.  If you are finding all of your self worth in your looks then you are setting yourself up for future heartache and hurt.  Because relationships and lives are not built and maintained on a person’s look, but on a person’s character.  And it is those who fear the Lord, who take him seriously, that will submit their character to be shaped into what God calls good.  And it will be those people who have a life at the end of their life that will be worth praising.


How much time are you devoting to submitting your character to God, allowing him to shape your thoughts, your likes, and your dislikes.  Give yourself to God today and ask him to help you focus more on his desires for you than on the way others see you.